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Second Wives Club
Dr. Millian is co-author of the relationship book "THE SECOND WIVES CLUB: Secrets for Becoming Lovers for Life," based upon her experience with "second-time-around" couples (straight or gay). The book was endorsed by Dr. John Gray, author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" and Dr. Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D., author of "Love Is Letting Go of Fear" and "Forgiveness."

 

Evaluating the Health of Your Marriage

The acronym LOVERS is a concept of marital relationships to help you evaluate the health of your marriage. LOVERS are the essentials--the foundation and building blocks of a marriage. When you and your spouse or partner work toward being LOVERS every day of your lives, you ensure the permanence of your relationship.

Loyalty
Openness
Value of Trust
Empathy
Respect
Stability of Commitment

QUIZ

Click the True or False button for each statement. The more truthful you are, the more this quiz can help you.

  Statement True False
1. I feel that my partner has a lot of respect for me.
2. My partner is totally committed to us.
3. I truly feel my partner doesn't listen to what I have to say.
4. I am completely committed to my partner and our marriage.
5. My partner is a very understanding person.
6. I want to know everything that's on my partner's mind.
7. My partner is not very honest with me.
8. I've never thought that I've made a mistake marrying my partner.
9. Frequently, I'm too angry with my partner to try to understand her/him.
10. My partner seems to put me low on the list of his/her priorities.
11. My partner finds it difficult to remember my preferences.
12. I admire my partner's character.
13. I have to be careful of what I tell my partner; it is not confidential.
14. My partner is always there for me.
15. I'd be supportive of my partner through thick or thin.
16. I come first in my partner's life.
17. I find it scary to be emotionally or physically intimate.
18. My partner keeps feelings to herself/himself.