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Author, internationally known Psychologist and Social Worker specializing in Marriage, Couples, Relationships and Individual Counseling
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With over 28 years of experience as a marriage counselor and couples therapist in Bergen County, New Jersey, and the larger Tri-State area, I provide individual therapy as well as relationship therapy to couples who are in their first or second marriages or in committed relationships.
You'll find I'm easy to talk to about sensitive issues that come up in couples therapy. In my couples counseling sessions, I provide nonjudgmental advice that addresses your needs and helps improve communication, intimacy and mutual respect between both partners.
People enter into relationships with expectations, goals and dreams of what that relationship should look like and how it should evolve. I'll help you express those ideas to one another in a safe and supportive environment where you'll feel comfortable opening up to each other. We'll work together to outline what you hope to achieve in therapy and how we can increase productive communication and strengthen the bonds of your relationship's foundation.
Your individuality and core values – what makes you you – are what you bring to a relationship. This is how you see the world. The same goes for your partner. These separate world views need to be acknowledged in order for healthy communication to be maintained in a relationship.
I’ll facilitate communication between both of you so you can express yourselves without fear of being shut-down or minimized.
As a marriage counselor, I make certain that you leave our sessions with an action plan that is solution-focused and specific to your relationship. You will have the knowledge and confidence to create positive change and grow both personally and as a family.
During counseling, I'm a neutral third party who helps partners focus on problem-solving instead of antagonizing each other. This creates a safe space to have open discussions about the state of your union and explore ways to improve it.
Dr. Millian being interviewed by Channel 7, New York City
You may think marriage counseling is only for couples whose relationship is under stress. However, marriage counseling can be beneficial for any couple that wants to grow together and strengthen their relationship.
There are so many ways couples therapy can improve your relationship and make you stronger as a couple. Here are just a few of the benefits you can expect from couples counseling.
Through couples counseling, you will learn:
To have an open and honest relationship, you need to have trust in each other. You also need to be able to communicate your needs and desires while respecting those of your partner. Couples therapy can provide you with the tools needed to effectively communicate and foster trust in your relationship.
Being able to communicate effectively is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Couples can benefit from this therapy by understanding their communication patterns and how they affect their partner.
You fell in love once… why not again? Marriage counseling will help you rediscover the list of reasons why you fell in love in the first place, and how you can rekindle that romance!
Sometimes, couples find themselves in a routine where issues fester because the couple doesn’t constructively address them. This can lead to resentment, which can damage the relationship. Couples who see a marriage counselor can learn how to resolve problems in healthy ways.
Judgment and hurt feelings can get in the way of honest communication between partners. Couples therapy will show you how to be non-judgmental when each of you is sharing their feelings about the other.
One of the biggest benefits of marriage counseling is that it provides you with insight into your relationship. This can help you gain a better understanding of the way you contributed to issues in your relationship. This can also help you empathize with your partner and learn how to support each other more effectively.
Just as a garden needs careful nurturing to grow and thrive, so does a relationship. Marriage counseling will provide you with provide you with constructive techniques for nurturing your relationship to keep it healthy and flourishing.
Everyone has a list of reasons why they fell in love with their partner. When a relationship gets strained, it’s easy for couples to forget why they fell in love in the first place. Marriage counseling can take you back to those magical days when you and your partner first knew love.
There are a lot of misconceptions surrounding marriage counseling, but it is actually a positive and healthy way for couples to work through issues and strengthen their relationships. If you or your partner are considering going to see a marriage counselor, know that you are not alone. Many couples find that couples therapy really helps them. If you think marriage counseling could help you or your significant other, please contact me.
As a marriage counselor, I make certain that you leave our sessions with an action plan that is solution-focused and specific to your relationship. You will have the knowledge and confidence to create positive change and grow both personally and as a family.
During counseling, I'm a neutral third party who helps partners focus on problem-solving instead of antagonizing each other. This creates a safe space to have open discussions about the state of your union and explore ways to improve it.
My training as a licensed Psychologist enables me to offer straight, gay, lesbian or transgender couples a variety of therapies to help resolve your relationship issues and make your relationship stronger. Through telephone and tele-therapy, you will receive active therapy with emphasis on feedback to help you thrive in your marriage or relationship.
If long-term counseling is not an option for you, I am able to provide short-term marriage counseling as well.
We all deserve secure and loving bonds with those closest to us. I have the skills and experience to assist you in moving forward in your life, so that you can make changes and have the life you desire.
At one time or another in our lives, we all have come up against obstacles for achieving happiness. The obstacle could be stress in our primary relationship, anxiety in considering a career change, or even issues regarding self-esteem, confidence, or depression.
When we have difficulty working through these and other everyday life issues, it may be helpful to speak with an objective, nonjudgmental psychologist such as myself. I am trained to be able to assist you in choosing the best approach for achieving your individual goals.
I have provided psychological counseling for over 28 years and have been trained in a variety of treatment modalities (please see my page Therapies). You and I will make a joint decision regarding which therapy works best for you. As a psychologist, I will provide you with active feedback so that you leave your therapy sessions with insight and skills to make the changes you choose to make.
As co-author of a relationship book, The Second Wives Club, I have found that when a person is happy and fulfilled as an individual, he/she is more able to be happy and satisfied in a personal relationship. Private counseling sessions in which short-term or long-term objectives are determined and addressed can have far-reaching affects and profoundly impact loved ones in our lives.
Through tele-therapy, I have provided counseling as a sole practitioner in a confidential, comfortable setting. I am not affiliated with a group, a mental health clinic or managed care. In other words, I am an “independent” provider and thus am able to assure that your sensitive, private information will not be on record in some organization’s computer system.
If you're looking for a reliable therapist, I am here to help. At my practice, I take the time necessary to get to know you and your situation so that I can provide you with the correct treatment. Together, you and I will get to the root of your most pressing therapy needs, ensuring you can overcome your mental obstacles.
More than anything, I want to help you get back to living the best life possible. When you come to me for counseling, I dedicate myself entirely to you. You can count on me to be there for you when you need me most.
I understand how difficult it can be to get through daily life when it feels like you're all alone. That's why I strive to provide you with the proper care that you require. I'll do whatever it takes to help you restore your confidence, achieve your goals, and become the type of person you aspire to be.
When you're ready to get started, please don't hesitate to get in touch with me. I'm happy to go over your options and recommend the best way to proceed. As both a therapist and psychologist, I am committed to assisting you in any way possible.
Inquiries are welcome and are personally answered by Dr. Millian, Psychologist and Marriage/Couples Counselor, Bergen County NJ and the New York Tri-State area. For a prompt response please call or text her at 203-313-1208.
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